This American guy has the state I want:
Doing what he actually wants to do
Not kidnapped by money into mental pain
Spare capacity to help others suffer less
A stable inner value system that doesn't sway with the room
A relationship that's already lasted 6 years
https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1TZG36jEqn/?spm_id_from=333.1007.tianma.1-1-1.click&vd_source=7dd7574890799cb767775c76e1a8c3f2